How R.A.I.N. helps your mind be gentler & your heart wiser . . .

You may want to still your mind to experience calmness and peace in your life and believe that meditation is the answer.  You may also think that meditation and mindfulness is about learning to train your mind and be empty of thoughts.  While some of these aspects of any mindfulness practice, you will not experience long lasting peace or comfort in your life if you do not also practice and cultivate a loving heart.

Mindfulness meditation and self-compassion are intimately connected.  You may believe and struggle with the idea of learning to be kind and loving yourself because you feel that it is selfish.  As you deepen your practice of mindfulness meditation and have more conscious awareness of the thoughts and feelings in your mind, it is crucial that you simultaneously make the attitudinal shift to be kind and deepen your own self-compassion. 

One practice that can help you is to use R.A.I.N.  R.A.I.N. is a traditional acronym used by many mindfulness meditation teachers such as psychologist, author and teacher Jack Kornfield.  Like rain that indiscriminately and gently touches all things it falls upon, mindfulness is about learning to be curious and cultivating your capacity to hold all of your experiences non-judgmentally with kindness and love. 

• Recognize:  As your mindfulness practice grows, the first step is to simply recognize and be aware of the stream of thoughts and feelings that surface in your mind.  Simply notice without elaborating.
• Accept.  Without judging your experiences, learn to simply allow the stories in your mind to unfold and embrace your vulnerability.  Like countless other people who have lived, the pain or discomfort that you experience is part of your humanity and the human experience.  Self-judgment or criticism will only add to your pain and lead to  suffering.
• Investigate: As you notice your mind’s many experiences and simply hold them in your awareness, investigate and learn to see beyond your fleeting thoughts and feelings to examine how the stories or feelings manifest in your body.  Is the experience part of some story that you are clinging to tightly as your part of your  identity? Does it extend to your relationships with the people who you love?  Where else have you experienced the thoughts or feelings?
• Non-identification:  Perhaps the most challenging and important step is to learn to not take what your mind tells your personally.   As you learn to consciously hold your mind’s constant chatter, you may believe and feel like many people that your private experiences define you.  However, as your mindfulness practice grows and you learn to cultivate self-compassion, you will also deepen your awareness and become the observer behind all of your experiences.  Simply noticing your experiences and cultivating self-compassion will allow you to act with a wise heart so that you do not take your experiences personally. 

As with any skill, R.A.I.N. is a tool that without consistent practice will not take you very far.

To your health,
Dr. Sandoval

To learn more about how working with a psychologist and holistic health coach can help you to enhance your health and well-being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a free consultation. 

The information, published and/or made available through the www.fullofradiance.com website, is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a physician-patient relationship. This blog is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information in this post for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. You should consult a physician in all matters relating to your health, particularly in respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention.  Any action on the reader’s part in response to the information provided in this blog is at the reader’s discretion.

How informal mindfulness practices can help you to effectively handle your distress . . .

Mindfulness is the practice of intentionally bringing your attention to your here and now experiences with an attitude of curiosity, openness and non-judgment.  Many studies have shown that mindfulness practices can help you to reduce stress, worry, symptoms of binge eating, many anxiety disorders and ADHD.^{1, 2}

Mindfulness practices, including yoga and yoga breathing exercises, can also help you to enhance your emotional well-being, immune system , concentration and focus as well as help you to reduce your blood pressure and trigger your “rest and digest response” (i.e., it activates your sympathetic nervous system).^{3,4,5,6, 7}  

While establishing a formal practice like mindfulness meditation is ideal, using informal practices and learning yoga is simple.  Below are simple, informal practices that you can learn to help you disengage, reduce stress and enhance your well-being.

• Notice Sounds: Notice 5 sounds.  As you notice the sounds, be aware of the moment when your mind identifies the sound and adds a label or judgment.  It is in the nature of the mind to identify, categorize, label and judge every experience you bring your attention to.  With practice, you will simply notice the sounds and be in the spaciousness of your awareness before your mind adds a label or judgment.

• Mindful Breathing: Take 10 mindful breathes.  Pay attention to every sensation in your body as you inhale and exhale.  The rise and fall of your chest or abdomen. The rate and depth of each breath.  The cool sensations as you inhale through your nostrils and the warmth as you exhale out your mouth.  The expansion and collapse of your lungs as the air flows in and out of your body.  Take time throughout your day to disengage from the task at hand, pause and take 10 mindful breaths.

• Mindful Eating: Notice the colors and shapes.  Notice the smells of the food.  As you bring the food to your mouth, notice the intention to eat and your body’s production of saliva in the anticipation of the food entering your mouth.  As you chew, notice the sounds of the food and the chomping of your teeth that the chewing produces.  Notice the feel and texture of the food. Your tongue positions the food precisely where it needs to be in order to chew.  Notice the taste.   Be aware of the moment and intention to swallow the food.

• Mindful Touch: Touch a loved one or practice self-massage.  As you pay attention, notice all the sensations on your skin.  Tingling, warmth, coolness, itching, pain, tension, pleasure, lightness.  Be aware of any judgments or stories that your mind adds to the experience as you touch.  It is natural for your mind to add judgments and preferences about yourself and others.  Without struggling, simply notice the judgments, and gently bring your awareness back the sensations in your body.

• Mindful Walking: Walking is a controlled act of falling.  When you walk mindfully, have the intention of noticing every aspect of your body as you raise your foot to take a step.  Monitor the sway of your hips.  Notice the tension in your calf as you raise your foot, the pull in your thigh and the pressure upon landing on your heel.  Alternate and again monitor the movement of your body as you lift the opposite foot.  Be aware of the movement of your shoulders, hips and arms as you balance yourself to walk.  As your mind wanders, gently redirect your attention back to your breath and the movements of your body.  To help you maintain your focus, you may want to mentally label each step.  “Left, Right, Left, Right.”

• Alternate Nostril Breathing (Yoga breathing exercise): Close your right nostril with your right thumb and inhale through your left nostril. Do this for a count of four seconds. Immediately afterwards close your left nostril with your right ring finger and little finger while you simultaneously remove your thumb from your right nostril and exhale through this nostril. Do this for a count of eight seconds. Complete your cycle by inhaling through your right nostril for a count of four second and follow by closing your right nostril with your right thumb and exhale through your left nostril for a count of eight seconds.  Start by doing three cycles, adding one per week until you are doing seven cycles.

To your health,

Dr. Sandoval

To learn more about how working with a psychologist and holistic health coach can help you to enhance your health and well-being, call or email Dr. Sandoval to schedule a free consultation.

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The information, published and/or made available through the www.fullofradiance.com website, is not intended to replace the services of a physician, nor does it constitute a physician-patient relationship. This blog is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. You should not use the information in this post for diagnosing or treating a medical or health condition. You should consult a physician in all matters relating to your health, particularly in respect to any symptoms that may require diagnosis or medical attention.  Any action on the reader’s part in response to the information provided in this blog is at the reader’s discretion.